Get back with your partner
After a while, you will be ready to decide if your goal is to get back with your partner or move on. If you choose the former, you’ll need to prepare yourself in some areas that probably have been reduced due to the painful split that you just went through. You will need to recover some energy before you face your ex and suggest a change. If saving a relationship seems not to be an option, carry on with your decision.
First of all, you must strengthen your self esteem, remember that you could have been responsible for the breakup itself, or you may have had to play that role, thus, your partner’s approaches may be full of recriminations, accusations, critics, etc.
Are you mentally fit for it? Can you stand up for your interests without playing the victim’s role? Emotionally you have to be very strong in order to convey this message and gain back his/her trust.
If you decided to split and move on, your partner will not believe in your decision and his first reaction will be to reject it.
Get ready for this
You need to be top fit for it; you cannot afford to undergo an emotional breakdown every time you have to talk with him. Follow these simple steps:
- Keep repeating your point again and again
- Make your point clear right from the beginning and explain it only once
- Do not validate yourself all the time, it will transmit signs of weakness
- Defend your position. If questioned, talk about something else; do not play his/her game.
- Pay attention and show affection if you are treated well; do not do this if he/she verbally attacks you.
- Be honest with your feelings and assume your share of responsibility. He/she will feel calmed.
Are you afraid to be alone?
You have to consider your own needs at all times. You will have to think about the real motivation that makes you want to get back with your ex: is it protection? Love? Do not pick anything silly for getting back together. It will be simply very awkward.
Are you afraid to be alone? Do you just want to fill a gap? If so, remember the bad memories you had in this relationship and check if it is worth the pain to get back together only by fear. Very soon you will finally get over the fear and you will be able to live alone back again. Your partner will need some time too to start realizing what has happened. During this time you will be subjected to accusations, negativity, good and bad moments, etc. If you keep focusing on your overall goal you will overcome it better.
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